It’s Monday, and if you’re expecting a Monday Eats post, I’m afraid I’m going to have to disappoint you. You see, the last two places that Mr. C and I headed out for our weekly date night were rather disappointing. Maybe not disappointing but more like, there was nothing to write home about. Mediocre, and definitely places we won’t bother to come back to. Ever.
So this week, it’s Random Monday and I’ll be talking about – Date Night Conversations.
This topic actually reminded me of that Modern Family episode where Mitchell and Cameron go out for their first date night after a long time of not going on one after they adopted their daughter. The awkward fear that they would end up talking about their child all night – like most couples with kids do on date nights. The thing is, yes, we do the same thing too. Both Mr. C and I usually talk about the kids, because let’s face it, they’re not around, so what better time to discuss ABOUT them without prying ears right??
We also do discuss other things, like his family and mine. And we gossip and we vent because, we know it stays in the “cone of silence” when we share things that if we had shared with our friends, might somehow be construed as being mean, or bitchy. But our partners know we’re just venting and they can usually give us their perspective on whatever situation we’re encountering. Better still, I think Mr. C, loves a b*tchfest session. 😉
Last Saturday, we went to one of our favourite Italian restaurants, The Cellar Bar on Bourke Street. Sorry, no photos because we were seated too close to two other tables and I was too embarrassed to take photos of my food. But trust me, the food there is amazing! Back to the story. We were talking about our friends, his colleagues, those sort of things until it came to the part about calling your partner at work.
You see, Mr. C and I are not the sort to show any PDA. At all. We will hold hands but, there’s no kissing in public, that sort of thing. Sure we give each other a hug or a peck on the cheek in front of the kids, but not outside, in public. We also do not share on Facebook how much we feel for each other. Why bother when you can tell them straight to their faces? To me, people sharing how much they love their partners on facebook is like, I don’t know, seems fake. Why do you need to tell the world? Anyway, It’s not just him, it’s both of us and we’re both fine with that. We are pretty in-tuned with how we act around each other and in public. That’s just us.
We also do not ring each other while the other is at work UNLESS there is something specifically important to ask, tell, and do. That sort of thing. The reason I’m telling you this is because, Mr. C was sharing how his colleague’s wife loves to ring his colleague during his lunch time – each day – EVERY DAY. Yep. That, to both of us was a weird concept. Something we could not wrap our heads around because, why bother to ring and just chit chat when you’ll be seeing each other at the end of the day anyway? Unless you’re not then, that’s a different story.
I rationalised that maybe his colleague enjoys talking to his wife. The thing is, his colleague finds it really annoying but dares not tell his wife that, so he puts up with it. Mr. C laughs each time his colleague’s wife rings. He even says to his colleague that if he ever does that to me, I would bite his head off. And he’s right. I don’t ring unless it’s important, usually I text – if there’s no urgency. He doesn’t ring unless he needs me to do something or needs to ask me something too because more often than not, while he’s working or at lunch I would be working at home. That’s my only chance to get things done before the kids get home. So I really hate to be interrupted so that we can have a chat – something we normally do when he gets home from work anyway. We do de-stress and share our day at the dinner table and if it wasn’t for little ears, then just before bed.
Which actually makes me curious. Are we the only couple that do not ring each other during the day unless absolutely necessary? Do you and your partner often ring each other just to chat? If so, I’m curious. Why? Don’t you talk when you’re home together, or maybe just before bed? You know, before you wind down? And what DO YOU chat about during the day?